This month I turn 25. I feel good about this quarter-century birthday. As I step firmly into my mid-twenties, I’m reflecting on more lessons learned so far. You can read similar posts from 2016 and 2017 if you like.
1. I’ve changed in many ways over the last ten years. I’m less anxious, more settled. More ambitious in some areas, less so in others.
2. In some ways I haven’t changed at all. I still enjoy reading, writing, musicals, being in bed at 9:30pm and most things involving Reese Witherspoon.
March has been quite a month.
I’ve covered many topics on this blog. So far, money hasn’t been one of them. It can be an awkward subject, so tightly connected to privilege, appearances and security. It’s becoming more common to discuss money within my social circles, potentially thanks to Refinery29’s Money Diaries series and similar articles.
Catch ups with friends often tiptoe around the subject until one of us asks a specific question. Although I would never ask someone to share their financial circumstances if it made them uncomfortable, each conversation has left the air a little clearer. Whether it’s annual salary or monthly housing costs, having points of comparison can help to position and prepare ourselves better.
Trigger warning: eating disorders, weight, anxiety.
I haven’t written about this topic in a while, because it hasn’t really been on my mind. I’ve worked hard to overcome my past eating difficulties, so I know this time of year is challenging for many. As the January dieting onslaught arrives, I want to share the advice I wish I’d received a long time ago.
Now that Christmas and the new year are very much in sight, I’ve put together a list of my personal highlights from 2017. This year included difficulties, like losing our wonderful Grandad in September and our darling dog just a few days ago. But reflecting on positive experiences doesn’t take away their significance.
I’d love to hear about the best parts of your year too. Here are mine:
How many times a day do you say sorry? Once? Five times? More?
Perhaps ‘sorry’ is verbal padding, part of the way you string sentences together. It can, as writer Sloane Crosley observes, be ‘an entry point to basic affirmative sentences’. For an excessive apologiser, even simple questions or requests are accompanied by that short yet weighty word.
‘At last we’ve arrived at the season in which we are all given license to be unremarkable.’
This piece on why autumn is boring and great resonated with me.
November has been pleasantly familiar. Bright, crisp and suddenly dark.